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Ever heard anyone say ~ "Yeah, but if only I had that or this or lived like that or this or was with that person or someone better." WELL... Just remember yes....
THE GRASS might be greener, however, you may want to DIG deep to reveal WHY it's greener.
It's completely normal as a human being to want to better ourselves...that much is TRUE... It's completely human to always want more...that's our GREED and sinful nature... HOWEVER, just remember what your Grandmother told you..."If something sounds too good to be true, it probably is." "Nothing in this life is free." etc...
We as Americans always want the latest of EVERYTHING and we want it NOW.
Patience is a virtue ~ try and have it if you can...It is rarely seen in women and NEVER in a man!
So, remember
If you think that the grass is greener..it just might be...or it could be that leach field and sewer tank that lies underneath.
Thursday, March 4, 2010
Tuesday, January 26, 2010
Secrets of skinny girls!!!
OK ~ Today's title might have thrown you for a loop...
And it just might rub some people the wrong way...quite frankly just might piss some of you right off, but that's okay because sometimes...that is what it takes. It's what it took for me ~
I know that the title of my blog is "Secrets of a blonde" BUT (and I mean a big BUTT) ~ today we are going to discover the secrets of skinny girls (people).
Having ALWAYS struggled with keeping my weight down it is no wonder I gained a shocking 87lbs with my son. I was not "thin" or "fit" to begin with, so after he was born I still needed to loose 95lbs to be where I felt comfortable in my own skin. NOT skinny... just MY skinny. Now, having said that... I feel that I have a right...Noooo a DUTY to tell other people that I've been to the bottom of the pit and I have CLIMED my fat ass out!!! and for GOOD!
OH WHY in the world has the United States become not only a SUPER POWER...(which I DO NOT understand anyways ~ especially when we; as a Nation are in debt up to are eyeballs) but a SUPER PEOPLE ~ (and I don't mean that we are GREAT either)
What is it with us? I mean did we really need the SUPER SIZED menu at the golden arches? Did we really need the golden arches to begin with? OHHH how it saddens me to see people that are SHOVED into their cars (And I don't mean because they are 6 ft-2 driving a Honda Prius either...) They can barely FIT let alone add more to their waistline. I'm not trying to be mean, but there is NOOOO reason on God's green earth why we are airing shows like Fattest toddler/teenager... REALLY? Seriously? Are we proud of this?
Now....I it is with seriousness that I will tell you that my heart actually breaks when I see this.
It is NOT their fault at such a young age and it makes me sooo freaking angry. How in the world do we expect them to succeed as adults (if they make it; as the mortality rate is staggering for these kids) and be healthy when all they've learned is how to be FAT.
That's right... being fat is NOT genetic ~ it is a LEARNED characteristic! There! I said it!!! It's a HABBIT folks... lets all stop lying to ourselves and lying to each other and just get over it...rip the band aid off ~ IF you are overweight or know someone who is...it's because you/they are not TRYING
to be ANY other way. (that's not saying that there are not some people that are unfortunately overweight because of a disease or a debilitating problem)
You haven't gotten to the point where you WANT to be any other way... and why would you when society as a whole is sooo freaking TOLERANT of "diversity" (and yet there is still prejudices with people and skin color ~ go figure!! BUT that's a whole OTHER subject...)
I'm not saying that people that are overweight should be flogged ~ NOT at ALL!!! What I'm saying is what did we expect when EVERYTHING we do revolves around FOOD people!!!
Dates...food
Girls night out...food, snacks, wine
Avon, Mary Kay, Party-Lite, Tupperware _______ parties (you fill in the blank of your "home party" here)
Family "get togethers"...food
Business meetings...food
even guys too...
SUPER-BOWL sunday...food
get the point?
The diet industry is a MULTIMILLION dollar industry and do you know why??? Truth be told...
People just don't like what they see/feel, but are TOO LAZY TO CHANGE!!!
Again...I'm sure I touched a nerve.
We ALL (myself included) want a QUICK FIX...but the facts are that there is NOOOO quick fix people!!!
It's A LOT of HARD WORK and DETERMINATION!!! BUT the rewards are soooo awesome.
Yep, it's not easy to change the whole way that you view food/exercise and no it's not fun to stay up late or get up at the crack of dawn to exercise ~ and that is another thing... we are sooo tolerant of DIVERSITY in this country, but do you think for one minute that CORPORATE freaking America could just MAYBE allow a person who may not have ALL the time in the world to exercise (i.e they just might be the one who puts dinner on the table after putting in a 9-10 hour work day or just MAYBE might have to get their kids at practice/school and therefore, just might have a LIFE outside of work) and allow people to either come in earlier or come in later to allow for that... and that it just MIGHT make us a "happier" people...JUST "food" for thought (see it's even in our vocabulary)!
So...yes, what I'm saying is that it's NOT easy and it's NOT always fun (in the beginning) BUTT
(pun intended) I can assure you that once you start thinking this way and doing what you know you need to do ~ Putting in hard work and effort ~ that this too will become a habit ~ AND PLEASE FOR GOD sake PLEASE instill it into our children's minds EARLY~
Now I'm sure that there are some of you reading this right now saying... "Hey..wait a minute...how dare this skinny bitch say all of this...I like who I am and I don't care that I'm fat." BULLSH!# on that!!!
There is NOOO one and I mean noooo one that is going to sit there and tell me that they'd rather be FAT than thinner (not skinny) and healthy and feel the way you do when you are eating right and exercising... your forgetting people...I've been to the other side and it AINT pretty!!!
So, yeah...I am allowed to sit here and say... NO FREAKING WAY!!! Sorry, I'm not going to make excuses or have tolerance for that type of thinking... WHY? Because, chances are...the reason that you even started reading this blog was because of the title ~ it caught your interest and you wanted to knowt what the secret really is ~ hmmmm ~ am I right?
The secret is...
ready?
YOU! You have to WANT to be a better person (oh, please do start groannning now..."I am a better person...I don't need to be thin to be happy or better." Blah, BLAH, BLAH~
You know good and well that the reason you even clicked on my blog was because it peaked your curiosity.
I hear it ALL the time... "oh, I wish I could be as thin as you" or "yeah, well sure that's easy for you...look at you...your sooo thin" or my favorite..."I wish I could loose weight, but no matter what I do...it just doesn't seem to want to come off."
and then I BLOW their freaking minds!!!! Well, no it's not easy..I KNOW...
why...Guess what people???
I used to weigh 250lbs. (THEIR JAWS always DROP) followed by... "WHAT, nooo..." "I don't believe it...you're sooo skinny..." want to know their VERY next words out of their mouths???
"How did you do it?"
So, don't tell me that people LOVE being FAT and overweight and unhealthy...and that they don't want to know how other's are thin and healthy...statistics don't lie ~ There are books, and guides and CDs and DVDs and movies ~ it's a PANDEMIC people!!
Just look at what I found when I typed statistics on FAT in America...this is the FIRST thing that came up ~ interesting....
And it just might rub some people the wrong way...quite frankly just might piss some of you right off, but that's okay because sometimes...that is what it takes. It's what it took for me ~
I know that the title of my blog is "Secrets of a blonde" BUT (and I mean a big BUTT) ~ today we are going to discover the secrets of skinny girls (people).
Having ALWAYS struggled with keeping my weight down it is no wonder I gained a shocking 87lbs with my son. I was not "thin" or "fit" to begin with, so after he was born I still needed to loose 95lbs to be where I felt comfortable in my own skin. NOT skinny... just MY skinny. Now, having said that... I feel that I have a right...Noooo a DUTY to tell other people that I've been to the bottom of the pit and I have CLIMED my fat ass out!!! and for GOOD!
OH WHY in the world has the United States become not only a SUPER POWER...(which I DO NOT understand anyways ~ especially when we; as a Nation are in debt up to are eyeballs) but a SUPER PEOPLE ~ (and I don't mean that we are GREAT either)
What is it with us? I mean did we really need the SUPER SIZED menu at the golden arches? Did we really need the golden arches to begin with? OHHH how it saddens me to see people that are SHOVED into their cars (And I don't mean because they are 6 ft-2 driving a Honda Prius either...) They can barely FIT let alone add more to their waistline. I'm not trying to be mean, but there is NOOOO reason on God's green earth why we are airing shows like Fattest toddler/teenager... REALLY? Seriously? Are we proud of this?
Now....I it is with seriousness that I will tell you that my heart actually breaks when I see this.
It is NOT their fault at such a young age and it makes me sooo freaking angry. How in the world do we expect them to succeed as adults (if they make it; as the mortality rate is staggering for these kids) and be healthy when all they've learned is how to be FAT.
That's right... being fat is NOT genetic ~ it is a LEARNED characteristic! There! I said it!!! It's a HABBIT folks... lets all stop lying to ourselves and lying to each other and just get over it...rip the band aid off ~ IF you are overweight or know someone who is...it's because you/they are not TRYING
to be ANY other way. (that's not saying that there are not some people that are unfortunately overweight because of a disease or a debilitating problem)
You haven't gotten to the point where you WANT to be any other way... and why would you when society as a whole is sooo freaking TOLERANT of "diversity" (and yet there is still prejudices with people and skin color ~ go figure!! BUT that's a whole OTHER subject...)
I'm not saying that people that are overweight should be flogged ~ NOT at ALL!!! What I'm saying is what did we expect when EVERYTHING we do revolves around FOOD people!!!
Dates...food
Girls night out...food, snacks, wine
Avon, Mary Kay, Party-Lite, Tupperware _______ parties (you fill in the blank of your "home party" here)
Family "get togethers"...food
Business meetings...food
even guys too...
SUPER-BOWL sunday...food
get the point?
The diet industry is a MULTIMILLION dollar industry and do you know why??? Truth be told...
People just don't like what they see/feel, but are TOO LAZY TO CHANGE!!!
Again...I'm sure I touched a nerve.
We ALL (myself included) want a QUICK FIX...but the facts are that there is NOOOO quick fix people!!!
It's A LOT of HARD WORK and DETERMINATION!!! BUT the rewards are soooo awesome.
Yep, it's not easy to change the whole way that you view food/exercise and no it's not fun to stay up late or get up at the crack of dawn to exercise ~ and that is another thing... we are sooo tolerant of DIVERSITY in this country, but do you think for one minute that CORPORATE freaking America could just MAYBE allow a person who may not have ALL the time in the world to exercise (i.e they just might be the one who puts dinner on the table after putting in a 9-10 hour work day or just MAYBE might have to get their kids at practice/school and therefore, just might have a LIFE outside of work) and allow people to either come in earlier or come in later to allow for that... and that it just MIGHT make us a "happier" people...JUST "food" for thought (see it's even in our vocabulary)!
So...yes, what I'm saying is that it's NOT easy and it's NOT always fun (in the beginning) BUTT
(pun intended) I can assure you that once you start thinking this way and doing what you know you need to do ~ Putting in hard work and effort ~ that this too will become a habit ~ AND PLEASE FOR GOD sake PLEASE instill it into our children's minds EARLY~
Now I'm sure that there are some of you reading this right now saying... "Hey..wait a minute...how dare this skinny bitch say all of this...I like who I am and I don't care that I'm fat." BULLSH!# on that!!!
There is NOOO one and I mean noooo one that is going to sit there and tell me that they'd rather be FAT than thinner (not skinny) and healthy and feel the way you do when you are eating right and exercising... your forgetting people...I've been to the other side and it AINT pretty!!!
So, yeah...I am allowed to sit here and say... NO FREAKING WAY!!! Sorry, I'm not going to make excuses or have tolerance for that type of thinking... WHY? Because, chances are...the reason that you even started reading this blog was because of the title ~ it caught your interest and you wanted to knowt what the secret really is ~ hmmmm ~ am I right?
The secret is...
ready?
YOU! You have to WANT to be a better person (oh, please do start groannning now..."I am a better person...I don't need to be thin to be happy or better." Blah, BLAH, BLAH~
You know good and well that the reason you even clicked on my blog was because it peaked your curiosity.
I hear it ALL the time... "oh, I wish I could be as thin as you" or "yeah, well sure that's easy for you...look at you...your sooo thin" or my favorite..."I wish I could loose weight, but no matter what I do...it just doesn't seem to want to come off."
and then I BLOW their freaking minds!!!! Well, no it's not easy..I KNOW...
why...Guess what people???
I used to weigh 250lbs. (THEIR JAWS always DROP) followed by... "WHAT, nooo..." "I don't believe it...you're sooo skinny..." want to know their VERY next words out of their mouths???
"How did you do it?"
So, don't tell me that people LOVE being FAT and overweight and unhealthy...and that they don't want to know how other's are thin and healthy...statistics don't lie ~ There are books, and guides and CDs and DVDs and movies ~ it's a PANDEMIC people!!
Just look at what I found when I typed statistics on FAT in America...this is the FIRST thing that came up ~ interesting....
Statistics don't lie -- Americans are fat
December 15, 2006There's no polite way to say this: Americans are the fattest people on the planet.
Americans are heavier than Mexicans, Australians, Greeks, New Zealanders and the British -- and they aren't too far behind, the U.S. Census Bureau's 2007 Statistical Abstract of the United States.
Americans' love of water -- Americans drank more than 23 gallons of bottled water per person in 2004 -- is balanced by a love of sweets. Americans ate more than twice as much high-fructose corn syrup per person in 2004 as we did in 1980.
Most of the statistical tidbits provided by the abstract come from a variety of sources, including the government. In releasing the abstract Friday, the Census Bureau said the information is presented raw, without explanations, interpretations or cautions.
Copyright 2006 by United Press International
This was back in 2006 folks... I am CERTAIN that it is MUCH worse now.
So, I swear I'll scream if I hear one more person say "Oh, how I wish I could look as good as you...and lose this weight, if only I had the time." SHUT UP and JUST DO IT!!!! (hey...why do you think that Nike made/and is making still to this day...a FOrTUNe on this saying)
Seriously though...what you NEED to do is STOP EATING!!! (now I know you have to eat something)
GUESS guess what?? have an apple or some fruit or here's a thought... eat some grains and less meat (oh I can hear it now..."ohh...she's a freaking vegetarian!!") NOPE! you are right...I don't eat red meat or pork, but that's something I've never enjoyed..but I do eat chicken, fish, and eggs etc.)
Hey... you want to lose weight and be a healthier version of you... EAT LESS AND MOVE MORE FOLKS ~ No BIG secret there!!!
You don't have to GIVE UP ANYTHING!!!
MODERATION< MODERATION< MODERATION!!!!
PORTION CONTROL> PORTION CONTROL>PORTION CONTROL>
BALANCE
Hey, I too enjoy a chocolate brownie sundae on occasion ~ operative word being OCCASION!
and when I do... I know I've got to make up for that and go lighter on the dinner or maybe just have something small before or after that and I might run a little more that night or stretch a little more in yoga class ~ BALANCE!
ALL things in life are BALANCE!!! Diet, exercise, finances, careers, family....
Without it...we would ALL be running around like chickens with are heads cut off... OH WAIT~ we are...hmmmmm (and that is a whole other blog)
Boy is that some food for thought... I mean ~uggggh
That's something to think about!
So, secret's out! You want to be a thinner/healthier version of you... It's up to YOU!
You're going to have to WORK at it...(that's why it's called "working" out at the gym/home) and it's not going to happen overnight...AND you will undoubtedly fall off the wagon here and there... BUT you can always run a little faster and JUMP BACK ON! You're not a failure...
You are going to have to think of FOOD as something that doesn't necessarily have to taste Exquisite ALL the time. Sometimes (actually more often that not) it's just about FILLING THE VOID in your stomach... (nope not much fun...not all the time) YOU can have fun doing other things....like
RIDING your bike with your kids/grandkids on a nice summer day
taking your kids/grandkids to the gym with you in the wintertime and showing them all you've learned
running your first marathon or even walking it...when you're 70yrs old
playing touch football though your 40's and 50's...baseball...my goodness...dodge ball!!!
OR ~ for all you wanna-bees ~
Have all the men drop their jaws when YOU walk by on the beach in your bikini...and having your boyfriend/husband be jealous (instead of you being jealous of him looking at someone else)!!!
FUN can happen in a multitude of ways and it ABSOLUTELY does NOT have to involve FOOD!
You can all do it!!! I'm sure... I know i did!
Have a GREAT day and remember... food...it's the other four letter word...
Tuesday, January 19, 2010
Men have feelings?
I have always heard this...but never really paid much attention to it ~ probably because the men that I was hearing it from were acting like girls~
Lately, and very recent I couldn't believe it... They really do! AND more than what we think they would have too.
Now, firstly I must premise this secret with some background of myself ~
For the last 10+ years of my life ~ I have been pretty much on my own...no man, no one to fall back on and a son to raise to boot. SO, having said that... I didn't really have much time for my own feelings much less think for a split second that MEN had them.
Most recently I have learned that there are plenty of REAL MEN ~ I mean...MEN... you know ~ takin' care of business kind of men that get down and dirty to do what needs to be done. The guy that you see under a car, or out shoveling the driveway when it's 10 degrees out for his family, or the guy who at the last minute at 11pm the night before the garbage goes out (that he's forgotten about) RUNS outside in pouring rain to make sure HIS duty is done and his girl doesn't have to do... A guy that will haggle for YOU when buying a car...a guy that will take care of said car for you when even just the windshield wiper fluid is low...AND start it for you (so your hiney doesn't have to touch the cold seat) when it's too cold to mention A MAN! Everyone got that?
So, recently my friend Jenny purchased something pretty big... and normally ~ she would have to figure out ...how to get it home and then have the daunting task of putting it together... hmmmm ~ well... that would be alright, so long as she got it...that's all that mattered.
BUT ~ this time... SHE just went and picked it out...(so basically just showed up and said..."yes, that one.") and LEFT~ "No", you say... YES!!!
HOW AWSOME is that???
Then she was off to run some errands...and do you know what...when she came home it was all done!!!
YEAH!
I mean put together (and nicely done) all BEFORE she arrived home ~
AND THE MESS WAS TAKEN CARE OF TOO!
So, what's the problem, right? NOTHING!!!
Scary huh?
Her guy was sooo proud of what he had done for her and was so excited to show her...
How sweet is that???
BUT, ohhhh her and all her WOMENESS!!! HAD to just fix ONE small thing~
uuuuggghhhh
Why? WHY? couldn't she just have left it alone???? NOOOOO she HAD to fix this one thing... because SHE...a bit of a control freak and such a perfectionist of her own things...couldn't leave well enough alone...
WELL ~ SHE realized half way through what she was doing and then HE walked in.
HE WAS CRUSHED!!!
"I worked so hard on that..." "I was trying so hard to make it all nice for you." he said
RIGHT then... Jenny saw in an instant HIS face and HIS eyes... She had really hurt him... said he wasn't and that it all was fine...BUT she knew otherwise!
Jenny had done what MANY of us do to our men...
She emasculated him!!!
She took away that feeling of accomplishment men get of doing something nice and unexpected for the ones that they love ~
Something that he was so proud of... "WHAT A JERK..." she thought!!
"Why did I have to do that?"
She quickly apologized and ran after him ~ but it was too late... the toothpaste had already been squeezed out and it was ALL over the sink...The damage was done. She knew she couldn't put the paste it back in the tube... so, she did the only thing that she thought...She started to put EVERYTHING BACK the way it was. BUT he was still hurt!!!
"IT wasn't even that IMPORTANT!" she thought to herself~
"HE is more important to me than fixing the thing that was bugging me, why did I have to do that?"
So, when I heard this I couldn't stop thinking how I do things in my life too... Thinking that MY ways are always better...
MAN! (pun intended) ~ I just want all women to know~
MEN REALLY DO HAVE FEELINGS and we as women do have a tendency to hurt the men in our lives VERY EASILY and brutally...but many times...without even realizing it!
Be very careful...not to emasculate your man...
After all... do you want him to be a MAN or a WoMAN~
Are we trying to make WIVES out of them and then expect them to be masculine too?
IT CANNOT happen!!!
They can do either or...
Just like we can't be expected to be both feminine and be the MAN of the house...
I for one...I'll take the man being the MAN and I'll handle being the woman.
JUST because we think something is better or could be better or should be done a different way (because we ARE CONTROL freaks) or a BETTER way... remember... THEY tried because they LOVE US!!! BUT if we keep doing things like that...they will eventually Stop trying and then...we will have the NERVE to complain???
They have feelings too and we need to LOVE them for ALL that they ARE ~ not just the stuff that they do!!!
MEN~ More feelings that we thought!!! and
that's a GOOD THING!!!
Lately, and very recent I couldn't believe it... They really do! AND more than what we think they would have too.
Now, firstly I must premise this secret with some background of myself ~
For the last 10+ years of my life ~ I have been pretty much on my own...no man, no one to fall back on and a son to raise to boot. SO, having said that... I didn't really have much time for my own feelings much less think for a split second that MEN had them.
Most recently I have learned that there are plenty of REAL MEN ~ I mean...MEN... you know ~ takin' care of business kind of men that get down and dirty to do what needs to be done. The guy that you see under a car, or out shoveling the driveway when it's 10 degrees out for his family, or the guy who at the last minute at 11pm the night before the garbage goes out (that he's forgotten about) RUNS outside in pouring rain to make sure HIS duty is done and his girl doesn't have to do... A guy that will haggle for YOU when buying a car...a guy that will take care of said car for you when even just the windshield wiper fluid is low...AND start it for you (so your hiney doesn't have to touch the cold seat) when it's too cold to mention A MAN! Everyone got that?
So, recently my friend Jenny purchased something pretty big... and normally ~ she would have to figure out ...how to get it home and then have the daunting task of putting it together... hmmmm ~ well... that would be alright, so long as she got it...that's all that mattered.
BUT ~ this time... SHE just went and picked it out...(so basically just showed up and said..."yes, that one.") and LEFT~ "No", you say... YES!!!
HOW AWSOME is that???
Then she was off to run some errands...and do you know what...when she came home it was all done!!!
YEAH!
I mean put together (and nicely done) all BEFORE she arrived home ~
AND THE MESS WAS TAKEN CARE OF TOO!
So, what's the problem, right? NOTHING!!!
Scary huh?
Her guy was sooo proud of what he had done for her and was so excited to show her...
How sweet is that???
BUT, ohhhh her and all her WOMENESS!!! HAD to just fix ONE small thing~
uuuuggghhhh
Why? WHY? couldn't she just have left it alone???? NOOOOO she HAD to fix this one thing... because SHE...a bit of a control freak and such a perfectionist of her own things...couldn't leave well enough alone...
WELL ~ SHE realized half way through what she was doing and then HE walked in.
HE WAS CRUSHED!!!
"I worked so hard on that..." "I was trying so hard to make it all nice for you." he said
RIGHT then... Jenny saw in an instant HIS face and HIS eyes... She had really hurt him... said he wasn't and that it all was fine...BUT she knew otherwise!
Jenny had done what MANY of us do to our men...
She emasculated him!!!
She took away that feeling of accomplishment men get of doing something nice and unexpected for the ones that they love ~
Something that he was so proud of... "WHAT A JERK..." she thought!!
"Why did I have to do that?"
She quickly apologized and ran after him ~ but it was too late... the toothpaste had already been squeezed out and it was ALL over the sink...The damage was done. She knew she couldn't put the paste it back in the tube... so, she did the only thing that she thought...She started to put EVERYTHING BACK the way it was. BUT he was still hurt!!!
"IT wasn't even that IMPORTANT!" she thought to herself~
"HE is more important to me than fixing the thing that was bugging me, why did I have to do that?"
So, when I heard this I couldn't stop thinking how I do things in my life too... Thinking that MY ways are always better...
MAN! (pun intended) ~ I just want all women to know~
MEN REALLY DO HAVE FEELINGS and we as women do have a tendency to hurt the men in our lives VERY EASILY and brutally...but many times...without even realizing it!
Be very careful...not to emasculate your man...
After all... do you want him to be a MAN or a WoMAN~
Are we trying to make WIVES out of them and then expect them to be masculine too?
IT CANNOT happen!!!
They can do either or...
Just like we can't be expected to be both feminine and be the MAN of the house...
I for one...I'll take the man being the MAN and I'll handle being the woman.
JUST because we think something is better or could be better or should be done a different way (because we ARE CONTROL freaks) or a BETTER way... remember... THEY tried because they LOVE US!!! BUT if we keep doing things like that...they will eventually Stop trying and then...we will have the NERVE to complain???
They have feelings too and we need to LOVE them for ALL that they ARE ~ not just the stuff that they do!!!
MEN~ More feelings that we thought!!! and
that's a GOOD THING!!!
Friday, January 15, 2010
What's Love got to do with it? The Value of Love...cost...NOTHING or EVERTHING
How many of us don't remember that famous title of Tina Turner's popular 80's song?
Well, what does LOVE have to do with it? Answer: EVERYTHING!!!
What does it ALL mean ~ because if you don't have Love it all means NOTHING!!!
Behind EVERY action in our lives there is a reason...
Was it for selfishness; perhaps a personal victory...was it to help "ourselves" attain a goal? OR was it completely SELFLESS and possibly done out of Love?
I ask myself this very question as I sit here and type.... BEHIND EVERYTHING I DO...what is MY motive?
Why did I even get on this computer today to write this Blog...was it to make ME feel better??? Was it to help someone or touch someone's life today to help them put it all together..??
My answer: I want to touch someone by the words that type in a positive way, whether its because my thoughts may have helped them see something in a way that they may have not otherwise OR they've realized that there life isn't is bad as they thought.
It's easy to love someone lovable, but how much love might we give to the person who isn't that easy to love at all. We care for and LOVE our families..which seems logical and sometimes easy...but what about out enemies? I for one can't imagine laying down my life for the people in MY past who've wronged me ~
I don't necessarily mean it in the literal sense of dying for someone...
What I mean is ~ Who do we put first in our lives....what do we VALUE? Ourselves? our FAMILIES? GOD?
It's a question that I find myself thinking about lately on a regular basis...
I mean if we had a boatload of money ~ but didn't have Love or loved ones to share it with...what's it worth, right... WHAT is money anyway? Is it more important than ANYTHING in the world?
What if we had all the gadgets and gizmos and toys in the world....a house in every state and abroad and all the stuff to fill those homes, but didn't have someone whom we loved and loved us back to share it with.... WOULD we WANT IT????
I for one...WOULD NOT!!! Would you?
Well, what does LOVE have to do with it? Answer: EVERYTHING!!!
What does it ALL mean ~ because if you don't have Love it all means NOTHING!!!
Behind EVERY action in our lives there is a reason...
Was it for selfishness; perhaps a personal victory...was it to help "ourselves" attain a goal? OR was it completely SELFLESS and possibly done out of Love?
I ask myself this very question as I sit here and type.... BEHIND EVERYTHING I DO...what is MY motive?
Why did I even get on this computer today to write this Blog...was it to make ME feel better??? Was it to help someone or touch someone's life today to help them put it all together..??
My answer: I want to touch someone by the words that type in a positive way, whether its because my thoughts may have helped them see something in a way that they may have not otherwise OR they've realized that there life isn't is bad as they thought.
It's easy to love someone lovable, but how much love might we give to the person who isn't that easy to love at all. We care for and LOVE our families..which seems logical and sometimes easy...but what about out enemies? I for one can't imagine laying down my life for the people in MY past who've wronged me ~
I don't necessarily mean it in the literal sense of dying for someone...
What I mean is ~ Who do we put first in our lives....what do we VALUE? Ourselves? our FAMILIES? GOD?
It's a question that I find myself thinking about lately on a regular basis...
I mean if we had a boatload of money ~ but didn't have Love or loved ones to share it with...what's it worth, right... WHAT is money anyway? Is it more important than ANYTHING in the world?
What if we had all the gadgets and gizmos and toys in the world....a house in every state and abroad and all the stuff to fill those homes, but didn't have someone whom we loved and loved us back to share it with.... WOULD we WANT IT????
I for one...WOULD NOT!!! Would you?
Thursday, January 14, 2010
Value of staying TRUE ~ savings that will last a lifetime
Today I learned the VALUE of staying TRUE ~ EVEN if it means being put under scrutiny or being made fun of and being uncomfortable for a time (financially or otherwise).
Yes folks EVEN in times of recession and EVEN though I am a BLONDE...
The secret is ALWAYS STAY TRUE~ When you do this you will be rewarded/blessed beyond your comprehension. AND just because you may not see the REWARD FULLY in a monetary way...TRUST me ~ someone HAS paid... ; )
Sometimes in life it's better to be a LEADER than a follower...(scratch that...it's ALWAYS better)
When you know something is true and just...stick up for it ~ Many times we are so comfortable in just being on autopilot and when that happens we will MISS the mark. It's NOT always a bad thing to go against the grain folks ~ Just remember our CHILDREN see and HEAR EVERYTHING ~
In this time of recession (when I mean recession I mean it either financially, spiritually, physically or even emotionally) we as people need to start getting back to BASICS folks and realizing what is important in LIFE...our STUFF or the people we Love.
WE were meant to USE stuff and LOVE people ~ not USE people and LOVE stuff. How many of us get that flipped backwards DAILY~ I know I do sometimes!!!
All to often we are sooo focused on what we want and what we can GET that we miss what we have RIGHT in front of us ~ Whether it be a person in our lives or a situation that has come our way. We need to learn to be CONTENT right where we ARE. When we can get to a place when that happens....man~ doors will FLY open for us and we will have our EYES ready to see ALL the possibilities.
Just remember... STAYING TRUE...is a savings that will last a lifetime. Sometimes it can even pay for a vacation.
Tuesday, January 12, 2010
COUPON QUEEN X's 2
Today I learned the value of the coupon!!! BLonDe style~
Having recently purchased a JEEP with a V8 engine (no, I have no idea what that means...I'm blonde) I realize that the GAS will be a GUZZLED... However, I was NOT prepared how much it would be GUZZLED when having to take my son who goes to school 1/2 hour away from our home!!! YEP the first week of having to do this... I immediately realized that I would have to immediately start being a CHOPPER SHOPPER ~ so as to take advantage of the discount gas available on the Advantage card for Price Chopper... Not really being a HUGE fan of this store didn't even matter ~ I needed to start saving money and NOW!!!
Being out of work right now doesn't help either, but SHOP I did THAT NIGHT! I took my son (who I should mention is 13 yrs. old) who HATES shopping and I really had a looong night ahead of me (all the while thinking of the HUGE savings) and missing getting some miles in on the treadmill..but shop we did. I must admit ~ I did have a difficult time shopping here ~ especially when I am used to being PAMPERED by my WONDERFUL friend called WEGMAN'S!!! BUT I plugged on.... I did find that A LOT of the prices interestingly enough were actually HIGHER than Wegman's (who I might add has always thought of as having higher prices than other stores...and has been dubbed the RICH white girls supermarket) so I was not easily amused. After spending like 3 hours... according to my teenager... I get up to the checkout and have a STACK of coupons... BOTH of which I should note came from the paper (SYRACUSE sUNday paper) and some from the internet... and I SAVED (after MANY, MANY beeps from the cash register and looks of ANGER from the other folks standing in line behind me....MUCH to my Chagrin...Irish Blonde...) a TOTAL of $66. off my total bill. Which was a 1/3 of my bill... so NOT bad ~ right... that's what I say... ALSO saving on my next fill up on that BEAST that I drive soooo all in all a good trip~ So what if I used 4 hours of my time and much of my brain power to do it~ it was worth it~
SO I thought... what Price Chopper fails to mention is that you MUST use the disc ALL at ONCE... you need to use the 20 gallons all at one time... NOT in more than one visit to the PUMP!!!! Something I had to learn the hard way~ BUT it's alll good... Don't worry, I'm sure I slipped some coupons in there that I might not have purchased the item for... Maybe...but maybe not... I can't remember... I'm a blonde right? So
lesson here... I guess if you are willing to hear the RANTS and screams of children and forgo the POSH environment of Wegmans for a day... (UGGGH) you can save SOME money...but was it worth it... I'll have to see... I still think I would have saved more and more time if I'd just stuck with Wegs....and maybe more importantly MY SANITY!!!!
Still $66.... not too shabby... and $4.00 more at the PUMP ~
HEY, TIMES ARE TOUGH!!! We ALL need to start clipping!!!
Blondie OUT!
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